Posts by just fine

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My Experience with Wordly Guys

by LaurenM in

sorry, two posts in a day..but i need to vent something: so far my experience with "worldly" guys has not been the best 1. my first guy experience was with a dude who left state and never came back 2. a coworker asked me to netflix and chill and i did 3. a guy wanted to sext me all the time but never took me out on a date and i did 4. a guy who took me on a great date but then asked me up to his apartment immediately after and then didn't call me after 5. finally, another great date, until after the guy texted me asking for nude pics..told him no!

so basically i've concluded that i had been giving off a vibe that i had no self respect and that was confirmed by me allowing them to use me as a sex object..but i'm hoping that not all worldly guys are like this, and when i start acting like i have self respect, they will treat me like that too?

is that a good assumption?

just fine

Oh the fun I had - crazy, wild, stuff I wouldn't even believe now - if I hadn't of had a front row seat to it! It took me a while to find balance. I joined some rec league sports - I had never played organized sports before and it was a blast. I met some really great people there.

i started college - mixed results meeting people there :-). Volunteering at the animal shelter was good too. Those things helped me to gain perspective and balance, and find purpose.

Enjoy your freedom- while I am not proud of everything I did back then - it all led me to where I am at now - which is pretty damn good.

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What did being a JW teach you?

by punkofnice in

these are some of the things the wbt$ 'taught' me:.

dishonesty is fine if it's to trick people into joining the cult.. if your spouse stops believeing, the best thing you can do is break up the family.. the laws of the governing body overrule any other laws...or else!.

my friends are conditional.. avoid loving people, they'll only let you down or get df'd.. unintelligent dumbos are better than intelligent ones if the dumbos are elders or above.. hate is better than love.. i am not good enough and god will probably enjoy killing me.. demons will appear in my room at night.. ignore practicallity if being practical or loving prevents the leaders getting money or praise.. god hates.

just fine

I wouldn't say being a JW taught me anything. Leaving the JW's taught me lots:

i can do anything

i can rely on myself

I don't have to agree with anyone and they don't have to agree with me

Real friends tell you you're about to make a mistake, but love you Whether you listen to them or not

Life is amazing and I need to make the most of it - who knows what comes next

Jack Daniels, Jim Beam, and Johnny Walke r will not help you find the answers you seek :-)

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My Experience with Wordly Guys

by LaurenM in

sorry, two posts in a day..but i need to vent something: so far my experience with "worldly" guys has not been the best 1. my first guy experience was with a dude who left state and never came back 2. a coworker asked me to netflix and chill and i did 3. a guy wanted to sext me all the time but never took me out on a date and i did 4. a guy who took me on a great date but then asked me up to his apartment immediately after and then didn't call me after 5. finally, another great date, until after the guy texted me asking for nude pics..told him no!

so basically i've concluded that i had been giving off a vibe that i had no self respect and that was confirmed by me allowing them to use me as a sex object..but i'm hoping that not all worldly guys are like this, and when i start acting like i have self respect, they will treat me like that too?

is that a good assumption?

just fine

It does get better. When I first left my experience was much like yours. I think you are in the right track - once you love and respect yourself you will attract people who will love and respect you too.

After all of my escapades, I met my husband. We have been married for 15 years, and he is still my best friend. He was never a witness - thank god - and has been my biggest ally in healing from the cult.

Not all worldly guys are jerks, but they are human and have their own baggage. But don't be used, you are worthy of love and respect. When I was a JW I never felt loved or respected so it was difficult to learn. We were taught to put up with others treating us poorly, and to think we deserved it.

be kind to yourself as you find your way. Make mistakes, learn from them, move on.

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Is zeal beginning to vanish?

by Caupon in

jw
friends

it has to be starting to fade somehow.

the very last time i went out in field service, hardly any were out.

maybe just about nine people were out and man if you could just see their faces.

just fine

I would say the zeal is definitely diminished. I can see it in my parents. They used to be die hard - never miss a meeting or field service. Now they miss all the time and when they vacation they don't bother with the meetings.

they also don't want any JWs to know what their financial situation is,

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Why do animals suffer?

by nicolaou in

bonnie is fourteen years old now and she's still fit and active, but she sleeps (and farts) a lot more and is definitely slowing down.. she loves us in her own dumb way and always comes to the door to greet me when i get home from work.

she doesn't 'sin' but yeah, she'll steal biscuits and feel shame afterwards.

she's loyal and intelligent and i dread the day when .

just fine

I love my animals more than most humans. This was a sticking point for me as a child growing up in JW land - my animals would not be resurrected and that animals would still die once the new system came????????? How could we be enternally happy while still losing furry friends? Why would Jehovah resurrect people who did terrible things but not my dogs who did nothing wrong? Never made sense to me even as a child.

Our old dog just died and there is always a big void when you lose a pet that shared so much of our life. I just wished they lived longer........

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Can't Understand Why This Is Allowed

by mariet in

i moved to roseburg, oregon.

the jehovah's witnesses are allowed to set up a display and man it right outside of the local library, and they are there every day and hour the library is open.

i am [redacted], the director of the douglas county library system and wanted to respond to your website email of december 11, 2015. i have consulted with the county attorneys office about your concern about jehovahs witnesses use of the front porch of the library building in roseburg, and my understanding of the law is as follows.. .

just fine

I agree everyone has freedom of speech, but I shouldn't be harassed or intimidated at the local library. Go see the County Attorney in person and explain why you feel they should not be there. They should not be allowed in a place where I would frequent that would make me uncomfortable or unwelcome, if you are shunned mention how awful they are to those who have left, and how it hinders your enjoyment of the library.

They will go away the minute anyone tries to challenge them, so challenge them. Go to the library every day, send your friends on the days you can't be there.

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Can't Understand Why This Is Allowed

by mariet in

i moved to roseburg, oregon.

the jehovah's witnesses are allowed to set up a display and man it right outside of the local library, and they are there every day and hour the library is open.

i am [redacted], the director of the douglas county library system and wanted to respond to your website email of december 11, 2015. i have consulted with the county attorneys office about your concern about jehovahs witnesses use of the front porch of the library building in roseburg, and my understanding of the law is as follows.. .

just fine

Would they allow hate speech? Because that is what the message about the LGBT community is from the witnesses.

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If anyone who decides to have a meetup around LA/Orange County in southern Ca!!!

by Olivia Wilde in

if anyone is up for a meetup in a public place anytime soon around southern california let me know.

i am not a good organizer of these things but if anyone wants to organize a meetup i am all for it, it can be near disneyland or surroundings!

!

just fine

I go to Newport Beach a couple times a year for work - maybe I can meet up sometime too!

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OK friends lets be honest, if a Nuclear Holocaust took place today how many of you would return to the KH?

by James Mixon in

speaking for my self, no way in hell.. this question to see if you really have been deprogramed,.

do you 100% believe it is not the truth.. a fourth of the world hit by a nuclear attack..

just fine

Nothing could ever make me go back to that mess of a cult.

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What is the alternative to JW?

by Formerbrother in

i mean this with all due respect, i would like to hear from genuine people who think jw have it wrong and then what is the truth?.

im not talking about silly little quibbles here and there.. is jehovah real?

the the bible is word?

just fine

Why do I need an alternative to JW's?

i don't - I have no need for others to tell me what to do and how to do it. I am happy without them and see no need to replace that in my life.